Men and women have two completely different ways of communicating. More misunderstandings and hurt feelings have resulted from the fact that men and women express themselves in such completely different way. This is what makes understanding the opposite so difficult.
That is why I’m creating the Decoding Men Translator. I’ll be taking come phrases men say and what they really mean when they say it. I’ll also be going over common phrases women say and what men think when they hear it. If there is a phrase you hear all the time and you want to know what he really means by it, just leave a comment below with the phrase.
He Says: You are a great person
What He Means: He is not sexually attracted to you and he does not want to go on another date with you. He is trying to distract you with a nice compliment so he can avoid telling you that he has no interest in you. That way he can get out of the conversation without hurting your feelings and making you upset.
He Says: Let’s be friends
What He Means: He has absolutely no sexual attraction to you, but he is hoping that perhaps you have a bunch of good looking girlfriends that you will eventually introduce him too. If a man says you should be friends and you are hoping that he will eventually want to date you, don’t! Men don’t want to be friends with women they are attracted too.
He Says: I’m not looking for a relationship right now
Its means that he has no interest in having a relationship with you! However, he would be more then happy to have sex with you on a regular basis. When he finally finds someone he wants to have a relationship with, he can break things off with you and he is never the bad guy. Saying he was not looking for a relationship is his get out of jail free card. You can’t call him a jerk, because he was honest with you.
The problem is he is not being honest with you, if he was being honest he would really have said “I’m really not that into you, but you would be ok for a sex buddy from time to time until I can find something better.”
What He Thinks When
You Say: We need To Talk
He Thinks: Crap, I’m in big trouble. What have I done that could have gotten me in trouble? Think, think, think. What have I said, done, or even just thought about that could have made her upset? I better figure this out quickly, because I need to figure out a game plan on how I’m going to get out of it. Otherwise, I will have to resort to my only defense for getting out of trouble, act stupid.
I have absolutely no idea what I have done wrong recently, she is probably upset about something stupid I did 5 years ago. Like when I didn’t notice she had purchased new shoes or had a new hair cut or when I said I didn’t like her outfit and she thought I said she was fat or when I looked at that cute girl at the beach.
I’m not in the mood to deal with this right now, instead I will just not answer the phone and pretend as if my cellphone ran out of power. That way I can say I didn’t get the message and hopefully she will forget what she is upset about and that can at least give me more time to figure out what I did wrong. Think harder, I need to come up with an excuse.
Maybe I will just call my friends and see if they know, either way I need to have this figured out before I see her. Crap, she is pulling up the drive way. Maybe I can make a run for it out the back? No, she knows I’m here cause my car is parked out front. Its too late, remember just play stupid. She can’t get upset at you, if you don’t understand what you have done. Hopefully she will take pity on you for being so stupid.
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