How To Hook A Man

You’ve Got Him Nibbling at the Bait – Now Set the Hook!

Every woman knows how to attract a man.  It’s really not much different from attracting a mouse or a fish.  If you tantalize him with your irresistible bait, he will be fascinated and move in for a closer look.  But he’s not a fish or a mouse; you can’t spring a trap or jerk the hook to keep him from getting away, and you can’t put him in a headlock and toss him into a gunnysack.  There are, however, a lot of things you can do to make him choose to stick around.

So, now that you have him eagerly following your trail of breadcrumbs, what can you do to make him yours?  A lot of advice will tell you to look at closing the deal like you are snaring a fox or a rabbit against its will.  A more appropriate analogy might be to look at it like you are breaking and saddling a horse.  There will be some fight, but a balanced combination of discipline, boundaries, and sugar cubes will give you the best results.  If you do it right, you’ll have a loyal companion forever.

Crank up the sexual tension

You know how to get a man’s attention, but (even though you enjoy the gratification just as much as we do) you somehow have the capacity to reel in your desires.  That’s a good thing.  You generally do a great job of controlling the drip of earthly delights.  Your instincts correctly warn you that too much too soon could be fatal to developing a long-term relationship, plus you need society, your mother, and yourself to view you as a virtuous lady.

Your job is to make him ache for the world of possibilities that could become available beneath your bra and panties.  Always let him hope, and keep him interested with small samples—your touch, your kiss, you’re your closeness.  No, of course that is not all that a good man is looking for, but it is his first instinct and your foot in the door.  It’s why he sees you as a mystical enchantress and not as a fishing buddy.  The potential of a consummating oneness of being is a powerful and magnetic force for both of you.  Make the most of it.

Let me offer you a little bit of advice for how you can really maximize his physical need for you without fulfilling his desires quite yet.  First of all, never underestimate the power of a woman’s touch.  Your perfect, silky skin is irresistible.  The closer your body is to him, the more he will feel something inside pulling him closer and closer.  Get within an intimate distance when you’re conversing; you should almost be able to touch your nose with your thumb and his with the pinky of your same hand.  Now use your fingers to comb his hair back off his forehead—and make sure you slowly caress his cheek with your hand, maintaining eye contact the whole time, as you draw it back.  If he wasn’t sure about his desires before, he will be after that; and if he was already intrigued, he will definitely want to stick around for more.  Don’t let him enjoy holding your hand or touching your arm continuously; you’re not an all-you-can-eat buffet.

Now, when you are snuggled on the couch watching TV and talking, your bodies will generate a lot of warmth.  Get up and run to the kitchen for a minute and let him feel the stark, cold reality of the world without you.  Especially if your closeness generated a little sweat, he will feel a distinct chill when you leave.  He will want and need the comfort of having you near.  When you return, he will try to pull you back, but run off again, perhaps to the bathroom, and make him really miss you and long for you to come back.  Do the same thing again every 45 minutes.  Keep him wanting you, needing you , and missing you.

Moving From Lust To Love

At this point, every fiber in his body is wanting more of you.  You job now is to transfer all of those tingly feelings in his pants and his belly into his brain.  This can be at home, at a restaurant, or anyplace where you can talk inside of that intimate zone long enough to get his juices flowing.  By all means, don’t say, “Do you like me?” or, “I really like you” or, “I think we would make beautiful babies together.”  Instead, you treat him like a fellow human and a friend.

Lean back just outside of the intimate zone to the distance from which he would talk to his buddies.  Pick out something that impressed you in your conversation, look him in the eye with a serious face, a firm jaw, and a slightly nodding head, and say something like, “You know, I think that was brilliant and professional the way you handled that situation at work.  You were firm but fair.”  Or you might comment on the nice way he treats his mother or on a major accomplishment.  Just remember that men want to be complimented on their competence, intelligence, and usefulness—so don’t be a girl and tell him what great abs he has.  Pay him a compliment that a guy might give him.

What you’ve just done in that moment is to take all of those lusty feelings and that tingly goodwill towards you and transferred it from his groin area into his brain.  He is already on an endorphin-filled high from your physical presence and touch, and now those good feelings toward you are emblazoned into his mind.  This is the alchemy that transforms lust into love.  This is what makes him want and need you and not just any feminine delights.  This is a real bond and a real connection on a human level.

That’s how to saddle a horse, hook a fish, and win a man’s heart.  Like a boxer, you set it up with those little physical body jabs, and you finish it off with a roundhouse uppercut to the head.  Use your wonderful feminine wiles and get him a little worked up.  Touch his arm and his face, and then touch his heart and win a place in his mind.  This way you can build an emotional, compassionate, and friendly connection before you jump to the physical deed.  The same rules your mother taught you still apply: Have your meat and potatoes before you open the cookie jar.

Sincerely,

John Morgan

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Paul’s Thoughts

I know it sucks, but you have to change his feelings of lust to love. If you keep the relationship on a sexual level, the relationship will fizzle out once the sexual heat cools down.  If you can get him to view you as an important part of his life, someone he wants to share his successes with and go to when times are tough.  Now you will have a man loving you and sharing his life with you.

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

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2 thoughts on “How To Hook A Man

  1. Jenniczyk
    May 20, 2011 at 9:16 am

    Very well articulated, John. And it doesn’t suck, Paul! Lust is much more satisfying once it morphs into love :)

  2. Makaela
    June 23, 2011 at 5:28 am

    Thanks guys, I just about lost it looking for this.

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