According to Dr. Rikke Lund of the University of Copenhagen there are around 315 extra deaths per 100,000 people per year due to spousal demands and worries. For anybody not familiar this these kinds of studies, spousal demands and worries are the technical term for nagging. Apparently all these extra deaths are men as the study found that women appeared to be immune to nagging.
What you have to understand about nagging is that it is considered by men to be a serious form of stress. Especially when it is a never ending occurrence. Nagging, which is a stress is known to have negative effects on an individual’s health by increasing the risk of heart disease and stroke. This occurs because a man’s body responds to stress by increasing levels of cortisol. It is these higher levels of cortisol that effect cause men who are constantly nagged by their partners to be 2 1/2 times more likely to die within 10 years.
One reason why men might be more susceptible to the ill effects of nagging could because most men tend to have smaller social circles than their partners and tend to withhold their problems from others. According to Dr. Lund “Men also have fewer people in their social network than women, who tend to share their problems and worries with more people.”
With that in mind, a man’s partner tends to be an important part of their de-stressing regimen. If most of their stress is coming from that partner than it can have a hugely negative impact on the man’s mental and thus physical health. As stated by Dr. Lund ” Their partner is more important to them in a relatively small social network.”
One solution the study found men use to get away from a stressful partner is by going to work. Men will actually bury themselves in work to avoid a stressful relationship. So if you find yourself in a relationship where a man is spending more time working than with you it might be because he find his stressful work to a break from more stress.
So the next time you feel the need to nag your partner ask yourself is there might be an more effective and less stressful way for you to communicate what it is that you need. That extra step might be what saves his life and could potentially lead to a happier relationship for the both of you. Plus I’m sure the last thing you want to do is to inadvertently kill your partner.
As first reported by the Vancouver Sun May 9th/2014